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Resources Importance of Family of Origin Family of origin refers to the significant caretakers and siblings that a person grows up with, or the first social group a person belongs to, which is often a person's biological family or an adoptive family. Our early experiences have a major influence on how we see ourselves, others and the world and how we cope and function in our daily lives.
There are other contextual influences on our families and us as well, including culture, class, and other social and biological kinships. As a worker, your experiences in your family of origin are likely to impact on the way you work with young people and their families.
Families always involve negative and positive dynamics, which may lead to members gaining strengths and abilities or experiencing difficulties.
Differentiation from family is a significant concept. Well-differentiated people function better. Greater awareness of the impact of your family of origin on you will benefit your work with young people.
Be aware of projection As a worker your own family of origin experiences influence the way you view people, families and relationship difficulties. How you understand your own family relationships and up-bringing influences the way you work with young people and their families.
A worker needs to be able to see a young person's situation as objectively and neutrally as possible. Experiences you may have in common with them may help you to empathise and hypothesise about what may benefit them. However they can also lead to assumptions, 'blind-spots' and narrow ideas on interventions and service delivery.
You can never assume that a young person's experience and needs are the same as yours. Deficits and strengths Family dynamics and experiences have significant and complex effects on the way we function and live our lives. Family experiences may be detrimental to our health and well-being, for example, where there has been physical, emotional, sexual abuse or neglect.
Alternatively, families may offer a place of safety, belonging, support and nurturing. No family is perfect. Often, families involve some negative dynamics or traits, as well as positive experiences and strengths. It is useful to try to consider both problems and strengths when understanding your own family of origin, and the families of the young people you work with.
Even non-abusive family experiences can lead us to struggle with some areas of our functioning, or daily lives. We each have to manage our own vulnerabilities and get help when we need it. However, it is important to remember that difficult experiences can lead us to have particular strengths and coping capacities.
Learning you can pass on Exploring your own family of origin, ideally with another trained person such as a family therapist, may provide you with invaluable insights that you can bring to your work with young people.
If you have explored your own family of origin and how your family experience has impacted on your life, you may be more confident about exploring family history with the young people you are working with.
Differentiation is when a person is sufficiently separate from their family, to the extent that they are capable of separating their emotions from those of their family members. In contrast, an undifferentiated person may be rigid and emotionally dependent on others for their sense of wellbeing.
This can lead to difficulties of over-identification and a failure to set appropriate boundaries when working in the helping professions. Therefore, it is helpful for you to work towards understanding your own family experiences, and toward being more objective in your understandings and actions in relation to other families.
Strategies Draw your own family genogram see: Simple Guide to Genograms and think about relationships between your family members and themes which may come up in your family. How do different family members operate in relationships?
What roles did you and other family members play in your family? What are the good attributes and qualities you have taken away from your family experience and what are the negative qualities you may have taken away?
How differentiated are various family members? What are the social, cultural, economic, environmental and physical influences that impacted on you as a child from your family of origin and previous generations?
Consider what influence your own family of origin has on your work with young people. Are you able to set appropriate boundaries and limits in your work with young people?We all love stories, especially ones that give us an “inside look” into someone else’s life.
As a child of God, you have a powerful story to tell. Sharing how you came to Jesus and the difference He’s made in your life can help others discover how they, too, can know God personally. In turn we (parents, friends, family, therapists and education personnel) have been fortunate to have been taught many life lessons in humility, patience and forgiveness by our child (very rare).
This stands as prime example as to why it is so imperative the need to work together. Family Quotes ♥ Family Day “Families are like fudge – mostly sweet with a few nuts.” “Our family is a circle of the strength of love with every birth and every union the circle grows.” “Everyone needs 65 Beautiful Family Quotes with Images Read More».
yes, Love is important in life but it makes sense whom you are loving, whether yourself or others.
When you love yourself it makes your life easier and smoothly to run but if you love someone else, you get happiness when he/she will treat you better.
loving yourself doesn’t mean to isolate yourself and being selfish. The last place that requires time management is your family, be it your own children, extended family, or family of choice. Obligations tend to reign in this area of our lives, so many people find it challenging to set time boundaries with family.
Those photos I will cherish for the rest of my life and look back at with my children and smile, laugh and yes even tear up at. those are the ones you will look back on and laugh at and have a story behind.
It’s the moments. Another tip – always have your camera on you. we love to capture anything, real moments in our family. We.