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Should We Make Rules? Rules are often debated in poly circles. Some partners love them. Some partners hate them. Most lie somewhere in between.
This is true… to a point. No rule can prevent someone who is determined from doing harm. However, it may overstate the case a bit. There is good psychological research to suggest that the act of committing to follow a rule will actually make a person more motivated to follow it.
If people commit, orally or in writing, to an idea or goal, they are more likely to honor that commitment because of establishing that idea or goal as being congruent with their self-image. Even if the original incentive or motivation is removed after they have already agreed, they will continue to honor the agreement.
Making a commitment presupposed that, at some point in the future, one or both parties may be motivated to behave in ways inconsistent with the commitment. The commitment is there to keep those impulses in check.
Cialdini sees two reasons for this: We like to be consistent. The second thing related to this is, when you see yourself doing even a small act in favor of a particular cause or issue, you come to see yourself as somebody who actually does favor this idea.
Getting someone to commit to a small purchase or show of support will enable a skilled marketer to obtain a much larger purchase or show of support later, as people are driven to be consistent with their prior actions.
Take, for example, a problem faced by most any manager: An employee who never makes it to work on time. The key would be to not only discuss the problem with the employee, but also get the employee to put down, in writing, why arriving at the office at the appointed time is consistent with something he or she values at work.
By doing so, the employee would have made an active, public and voluntary commitment, and the signed paper would create a sense of obligation far stronger than a simple verbal agreement could. So by making a commitment, we create a sense of obligation in our own minds to stick to the commitment, even if, on a more conscious level, we no longer want to.
Without a rule, a person would do their own analysis regarding whether to take an action, weighing the pros and cons, factoring in the effects on other people, and making a decision. A rule puts a thumb on the scale, weighing the analysis in favor of the prior commitment.
For some people, this is fine. This is especially effective with safer sex rules. Rules become dangerous, however, when they start being put in place for emotional reasons. Because rules operate to create psychological pressure to make certain decisions, rules can easily become coercive.
Sometimes what we want changes, and if there are rules in place against what we want, we can feel trapped or repressed. If we are able to exercise good judgment, we will make better decisions if we refrain from making our decisions in advance by making rules.For those teaching Philosophy, a good suggestion is the graphic novel Logicomix by A.
Doxiadis and C. H. Papadimitriou.
It can be described as a historical novel which introduces the reader to some of the great ideas that modern Philosophy and Mathematics deal with and it is based on the early life of the philosopher Bertrand Russell. Schatz literally means treasure so it is not a bad choice but the pronunciation really brings it down a bit because it sounds like shots or shuts.
Imagine yourself on a couch in a candle-lit room sipping red wine do you really want to break the silence with “SHOTS!”? A soft “Liebling“, possibly with a sexy tongue flap for the ‘l’-sounds, might be more fitting.
Neil Gaiman is the author of American Gods ( avg rating, ratings, reviews, published ), Coraline ( avg rating, ratings, 1. Schatz literally means treasure so it is not a bad choice but the pronunciation really brings it down a bit because it sounds like shots or shuts.
Imagine yourself on a couch in a candle-lit room sipping red wine do you really want to break the silence with “SHOTS!”? A soft “Liebling“, possibly with a sexy tongue flap for the ‘l’-sounds, might be more fitting. Animal Farm is an allegorical novella by George Orwell, first published in England on 17 August According to Orwell, the book reflects events leading up to the Russian Revolution of and then on into the Stalinist era of the Soviet Union.
Orwell, a democratic socialist, was a critic of Joseph Stalin and hostile to Moscow-directed Stalinism, an attitude that was critically shaped by. Man, the only rules I ever made with Russ were rules he broke. So he broke all the rules.
Because of course he did. I only made rules when I was like, “This is exactly what you’re going to do so don’t fucking do that.” (Like don’t get wasted and stick your condomless dick in people, maybe.).